You’re Not Too Much. They’re Just Not Enough

You’ve been called intense, dramatic, and extra. You’ve felt the urge to shrink your voice, soften your truth, dilute your joy. But what if the problem was never your volume, but their capacity?

Here’s how to stop apologizing for your fullness:

• Question the feedback, not your essence – “Too much” is often code for “I don’t know how to handle your clarity.” That’s their limitation, not your flaw.
  
  

• Track where you self-edit – Notice who makes you second-guess your excitement, depth, or vision. That’s where the mask slips on.
  
  

• Be witnessed, not approved – Share parts of yourself with people who see, not shrink, your power.
  
  

• Redirect the label – When they say “too much,” reframe it: “I’m passionate. I’m clear. I’m alive.”
  
  

• Let rejection refine, not define – Every “too much” moment filters out what’s not aligned. That’s protection, not punishment.
  
  

You’re not intimidating. They’re just unprepared. Keep speaking up about the things you were told to keep quiet about.