You Don’t Lack Confidence. You Lack Reps

Most people think confidence is something you’re born with. The truth? Confidence is like a muscle. You don’t need to magically “find it”—you need to train it. Every rep you put in builds the kind of assurance that sticks, not the shaky kind that fades when you’re under pressure.

• Rehearse rejection: Apply for opportunities you know you won’t get. The sting is temporary, but your tolerance grows. Soon, “no” won’t scare you.
  
  

• Make discomfort routine: Sit in the front row, eat alone, or start the first conversation. Small, controlled discomfort sharpens your edge.
  
  

• Track your bold moves: Keep a “bravery log” of risks you’ve taken, big or small. On hard days, it’s proof that you’ve already done scarier things.
  
  

• Shift from outcome to reps: Don’t judge yourself on wins or losses—count how many times you showed up. Consistency compounds into confidence.
  
  

• Play with silence: In conversations, let pauses breathe. Silence can be more powerful than words when you own it.
  
  

Confidence doesn’t show up overnight—it’s trained, tested, and earned one rep at a time.